Julia Heiman, director of the prestigious Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University (USA), she found during her research, that couples with more years into a relationship, have a better sex performance than others with less time in a relationship. It is because, as the years pass, both partners know each other better. They enjoy more the sexual relation, because both have improved their sexual performance. But is not that have been turned into sex experts, is that they have learned to know each other much more than before.
We know for sure what our partner likes and dislikes. What makes our partner hot and what’s not. It is because their expectations as a couple changes, or life changes as children grow; but for sure, it is because they know their sexuality. Reality is different from fiction… In today’s movies, couples just look into each other’s eyes, become aroused without foreplay and within three minutes they have simultaneous mind-blowing orgasms – this is a fantasy that in actual life is entirely unimaginable.
Because of its importance and significance to a good relationship, here are some tips for better sexual performance:
Learn to relax your body: There are many techniques to help relax and learn to “feel” the body. In yoga, for example, there are very simple exercises that teach you to pay attention to breathing during sex. Controls the rhythm of your breathing and you control the time. Use some relaxation techniques before becoming intimate with your partner. This will help take the focus off of performance. Strive to enjoy every moment of the experience. Take some deep breaths and consciously relax tight muscle
Sexual pleasure, not just sex: Leave aside any expectations about the outcome of sex. Avoid getting into a sexual experience with a previous “plan”, always keep an open mind.
Sensitizes your arousal. Focus on the pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure of experience when your partner stands in front of you.
Do not let aside extra help. As couples become more aware of their excitement, they can enhance their natural increase with a little help. Such is the case of sex toys, which can improve your performance by 100%. Fact is, sex toys, if used properly, are a good way to help couples keep sex exciting as well as increase the chance of the orgasm of the two of you
Try Everything Once: If you’re in a relationship, what was once great sex can become stale if you’re not careful. You may ask yourself ‘what happened?’ or feel like the spark has dimmed, but in reality, you just need to change things up. There is nothing more exhilarating than the unexpected, so experimenting with different positions or introducing a toy might be all that is needed to put the “oh yes!” back into your lovemaking. For inspiration, flip through a book with your partner, such as The Position Sex Bible or The Position of the Day Playbook. The Kama Sutra is also a classic.
Watch your hands. It is stroking, not knead. For better sexual performance, we must stop thinking only in the genitals. Focus on the thousands of sensory points we have throughout the body.
Talk, talk and then talk again. All women agree, that the clitoris is in his ears. Women like to hear that they are beautiful, they are excited, that fascinate them, that they want. Knowing how to ask for things is an art, and you have to know very well.
Choose the best atmosphere. The next time you plan to make love, light some candles, spray the room with a scented fragrance and put a soft music. Sometimes with years of relationship, we feel that it is no longer necessary. Nothing is further from reality, sex cannot be routine. The atmosphere is key in any kind of romantic and sexual situation.
Do not hold back your emotions. Feel free to express your feelings when you have sex. Sounds let us know what is happening with our partner. What are you feeling, if we are touching the right place, voice, tells you what your feelings are, and should not be shy to do what he feels at that moment. Just keep in mind that there are two types of sexual conversations: the ones you have in the bedroom and the ones you have elsewhere. It’s perfectly appropriate to tell your partner what feels good in the middle of lovemaking, but it’s best to wait until you’re in a more neutral setting to discuss larger issues, such as mismatched sexual desire or orgasm troubles. So choose wisely.
Make love in a new place. Add some excitement and newness to your sex life, making love in a new place. The possibilities are endless, so surprise your partner. Be creative, exciting and subtle… Your partner will love the new. It will make them feel that everything is fresh, new and unique.
Remember that communication is essential for better sexual performance. Talk to your partner… let it know your desires and dreams. The mutual excitement, is not only physically, but even more so, mentally, is a super important aspect to keep that burning desire among partners.
October 28th – November 2nd, 2016
You will witness lifestyle’s most provocative event ever. Wear your favorite mask and sexiest costume for another sexy Lifestyle total takeover of Desire Pear Resort and Spa. Because…What could be better for the scariest weekend of the year than a sexy, salacious and sophisticated few days at Desire Pearl resort in Cancun? As always, your LLV team will be making this event fabulous once again; it’s a guaranteed to make Halloween go with a bang or scream or wail – most likely all three!
For this year, you’ll find a terrific atmosphere, a purpose built playroom area, fab DJs, fun hosts, the famous Desire Foam Party and of course sexy, like minded people – combine this with some of the best resort facilities in the Lifestyle world and you can be sure of having a monster ball!
Places are limited (Pearl only has just over 80 rooms), so if this rattles your scary bones – wait no longer and get it booked!!