How to experience a threesome without ruining your relationship.

Threesomes. If there’s one fantasy that pops up most often among couples, Threesomes are on the top. Almost everyone fantasizes about having one, but few are willing to take the plunge and actually engage in a three-way session.

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This disconnect between fantasy and lived reality is no surprise considering the possible repercussions can be quite intense. From jealous overreactions to the potential for an emotional connection with a new friend, the negative fallouts certainly have the capacity to overshadow the red hot rewards.

But can a threesome ruin your relationship? I know many hundreds of couples who have had threesomes and I wouldn’t attribute many relationship breakdowns to a ménage-a-trois per se. However, there are some related factors intrinsically connected to threesomes than can contribute to relationship dissolution: dishonest communication, latent feelings of insecurity and partner pressure are just a few of the likely existing relationship issues that can surface after a three-way sex session.

Can Our Relationship Survive a Threesome?

Isn’t it interesting that the same couple who wouldn’t worry about whether her relationship could survive a financial crisis or a serious illness will wonder if their relationship could be destroyed by one night’s sexual adventure? Well the answer is, many couples have that deep feeling about this issue.

And so? You might wonder, is there a perfect formula for threesomes?

The answer is, no, but if we are able to follow some rules or recommendations, I am sure that we will achieve the main objective of threesomes, that is to explore our sexuality to the fullest, without resentment, jealousy or insecurities and much less, feel (or make your partner feel) guilty.

Here are some tips for making and fully enjoy the much desired Threesomes.

Communication:  Your mind is ready, your body too, what’s left? Communicate, the couple must agree on all the details. Make sure you’re both crystal clear about what you’re looking for. Talk about what’s on and off the table. Is your special guest going to play with just you, or with both? Are you rounding the bases, or just sticking with foreplay? Is kissing OK? Would you feel comfortable letting her or him stay the night, or do you want her or him to leave right after the fun?

Keep communicating throughout the process to make sure you’re both on the same page. Come up with a code word or signal that you could use to say “time out, I need a second to check in” and one for “this needs to stop right now.”

It’s also important to communicate those boundaries to your unicorn. You may feel overly clinical or awkward doing so, but threesomes require more communication than twosomes. Be explicit about what’s on and off the table for the two of you, and ask what she or he is comfortable with. For example, “we’re looking forward to playing with you, but we just want to be clear that we want to draw the line at intercourse. What are you looking for?”

One for the team, really? : The most common problem that arises as a result of a threesome is theone for the team, threesomes, swingers couples, lifestyle blogsrecognition of partnered pressure in the bedroom. Though many couples report having no regrets, those who have often attributed their decision to engage in a threesome to pressure from their partner. The famous phrase “one for the team” so common on the swingers scene, is also very commonly used by partners that want to influence the other partner to get involve into threesomes. If you like FMF (in the case of males) but hate MMF or vice versa, you should speak about it. But taking one for the team is not the answer. The emotional toll can be burdensome for both partners as they uncover patterns of sexual pressure that preceded the threesome. While it may seem obvious, it is worth emphasizing that partnered sexual activity should be free from pressure. Not only does the pressure detract from sexual pleasure, but coercion (both in and out of the bedroom) can destroy relationships and degrade self-esteem.

If you want your threesome to be a mutually gratifying experience, you both need to be on the same page. While it is normal for our levels of comfort and enthusiasm to differ from our lovers’, taking same time to discuss your concerns will help to ensure that you are not pressuring your partner into a situation you may both regret.

threesomes regretts, safe threesomes, swingers couplesThe jealousy factor: Jealousy is unavoidable with threesomes. If you care about your partner, some part of you is going to get fired up seeing his or her hands on another person. The challenge is figuring out if the uncomfortable feelings are worth the thrill.

It seems like you’re both already getting a little triggered by each other’s aesthetic preference. You’re worried about your partner liking other body types more than your own, and he seems concerned that you might be a little too into women.

Any manage can trigger some unforeseen, inconvenient and perhaps even disturbing emotional reactions, some of which may not come up to the surface for days – even weeks. Keeping communication lines clear and being mature enough to handle the fallout is a requirement for successful threesome fun.

Since accepting a threesome can be sexually, physically and emotionally potent, our sentiments and feelings often go wild while we process the experience.

Step by step first: You don’t have to go all the way the first time you hook up with your special guest. You may want to dip a toe into the threesome waters by having a make out or cuddle session before doing anything more serious. Take the opportunity to check in with your partner afterwards. See how you each felt, and if both want to continue moving forward. Then, it is the best time to talk about what they both lived, what felt both? Liked? Did not liked? Both felt comfortable? And any other question that comes to your minds.

Emotions: Some couples make the mistake of thinking that the 3rd is a kind of living, breathing sex toy, a talking blow-up doll present only to serve their fantasy. Discovering that they’ve invited a real person into their bed – one with emotions and cravings on their own – can be quite the awakening. Men aren’t the only culprits when it comes to treating women as sex objects; women have been known to out-do even the most piggish male when the novelty of the threesome provokes an unaccustomed surge of erotic hunger and the brain slides south. One woman told me that she felt miserably guilty after her first threesome; by the time she said Goodnight to the woman who had rocked her world only a few hours earlier, she had already forgotten her name.

But, remember, the main center of your threesome should always be your partner, no emotions (beside the sexual) or feelings toward the 3Rd Is allowed, because is a very dangerous, is a game that we should not play, even if you believe that you are strong in regards to love to your partner, Do not play with your emotions, you can get hurt and hurt your partner. Remember, a threesome is just a way of expressing sexuality for mutual satisfaction.

If you have difficulty admitting that you experience trigger a negative emotions or avoid acknowledging feelings that make you feel weak, talk to your spouse. If you have come this far, surely your partner is ready to help you with unwanted feelings. Remember that your partner is and will be by your side for good and bad.

Keep this in your mind, every sexual adventure has moments that are both sublime and ridiculous, elegant and clumsy, easy and awkward – just like any other aspect of life. If you trust your partner, and, even more importantly, if you trust yourself to handle the unexpected, living out your fantasy will be illuminated at worst, and ecstatic at best.

Enjoy!.

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