Can you believe it? Cuckold is…Wow! It’s the second highest heterosexual porn search term.
You’ve heard the term “cuckold” and know it’s “kinky” … but what is it? How does it work? And most importantly … is it for you? Cuckolding is just one of the many kinks people have but do not fully understand.
We have a few answers to some of your curious questions about this kinky ancient marriage practice:
1-A cuckold marriage … what exactly is it?
I describe cuckolding as a marriage where the husband derives sexual pleasure from watching his wife have sex with a man who has a more massive penis.
The couple forms an agreement in their marriage allowing the act of cuckold, which can vary in degree from role play for some couples to a lifestyle of actual cuckolding (the wife engages in sex with other men in front of her husband). This knowledge and tolerance of the wife’s activities with other men makes the husband in such relationships a “wittol,” properly speaking.
2-But, where did the term cuckold come from?
The female equivalent “cuckquean” first appeared in English literature in 1562. Cuckold refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know about his wife’s infidelity.
This also refers to a tradition claiming that in villages of European time, the community would gather to collectively humiliate a man whose wife gave birth to a child that was not his own. This is where the humiliation aspect of cuckolding first came into play. According to this legend, a parade was held in which they forced the hapless husband into wearing antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife’s infidelity.
3- But really, What happens in a cuckold relationship?
In modern cuckolding, the husband watches his wife engage in sexual activity with other men either right in front of him, or she tells him about her experiences after. The husband feeling like a victim of the cuckold is a significant element of the kink.
In the fetish cuckolding subculture, the female is typically sexually dominant while the man takes on a submissive role, only becoming involved with her or her lover when the wife permits it — sometimes he remains completely celibate in the marriage altogether. The main ingredient in cuckolding marriages is humiliation and denying the husband sexual release until his wife decides to allow him to climax. In some relationships the husband may even wear a male chastity belt, further allowing his wife control over his orgasm.
Part of the sex play is also the comparison of penis size and the wife shaming her husband for not having a large enough penis to give her full enjoyment of penetration. For this reason, many men in the fantasy of cuckold consider a black man dominant.
4- Is cuckolding the same as swinging or having an open marriage?
Often people confuse cuckolding with swinging or polyamory, but cuckold is different in that the husband is loved by his wife only. He allows her to experience pleasure with another man, but he does not want her to fall in love with the other men, only just receive pleasure from them.
5-. Is “shame” the only way the wife makes the man submissive to her?
Sometimes submission elevates through the wife using domination or bondage paraphernalia to tie her spouse up and spank, paddle, or flog him as a way of “punishment” or shaming for not fulfilling her sexual desires. This can occur just as sexual role play in the couple’s life, or it can become a way of life for the couple depending on the degree of cuckolding in the marriage.
6- Is the desire for cuckolding common (and is it normal)?
Cuckolding has been around for centuries and retained its popularity today. In fact, neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam found (after analyzing the contents a billion online search terms) that “cuckold porn” is second only to “youth” in heterosexual porn searches. (Although, it’s important to note that what you typically see depicted in pornography does not explain the psychological aspect of cuckolding.)
In other words, a man who wants to feel submissive to his wife and have her shame him — but who lives in fear of anyone knowing — may not be as uncommon as we think.
One of the main questions asked by men is, “How do I tell my wife I want this? And if she does agree, where do I find a person to start the cuckolding with?” As with any new adventure that a married couple takes with sex play, this should all begin slowly and with respect for each other.
December 31st, 2017
LLV wants to welcome you to the hottest ever New Year’s Eve Event… NYE Miami 2018!!
What’s a better way to celebrate NYE than with select, exclusive couples that will be ringing in 2018? This is the perfect sensual and erotic atmosphere that will allow everyone to revel in a sophisticated and lavish lifestyle.
If you’ve partied with us before, you know how we do it! First class with a big dose of sexiness thrown in – and this year we’re doing it in Miami, one of THE best party cities on the planet. While it will be one huge city wide party, only 200 couples will experience it the way you will onboard the Ultimate Yacht – Seafair.
The sexiest party of the year will take place on board the $40-million-dollar mega yacht SEAFAIR in the Biscayne Bay facing Bayfront Park. This is where all of the NYE festivities take place, including a huge concert (Pitbull performed the last 3 NYE’s), a spectacular fireworks display and the famous Miami Orange drop from the Intercontinental Hotel directly at midnight.